Discovering these Hypnosis and Programming Patterns

We will discover what these hypnosis and programming patterns are, as they often underlie our behavior and personality. Things that no longer serve you or stand in your way will be transformed.

It doesn’t have to be a major trauma; more often than not, it is a microtrauma, something seemingly very insignificant, but it can have a profound impact on your belief system or self-image.

Most of your personality is formed during this period from 0 to 7 years old, estimated to be about 80%. This is a very important time for the formation of our personality, and we go through it without the filters of an adult mind.

As we grow up to the age of 7, we may not be aware of what has been programmed into our subconscious. An unsafe environment dominated by loneliness or fear, arguing parents (for example, about money), or other negative issues have a huge impact on how we are shaped at a young age and how we create beliefs, attitudes, and convictions that are no longer beneficial and stand in the way of happiness.

In the first 7 years, most of our personality is formed, and the development of our personality is influenced by a complex interaction of factors, including genetics, environmental influences, personal experiences, traumas, and cultural context, which continue to affect us throughout our lives. But at this early age, we absorb everything directly into our subconscious, which is why we all carry some form of childhood trauma with us.

These issues can give rise to limiting beliefs or money blocks (limiting beliefs about money, which we will discuss in the next chapter). Limiting beliefs are unconsciously negatively oriented programs running in your subconscious. Limiting beliefs can be something like: I am not good enough, I am not worthy, I can’t do this, I don’t deserve it, I don’t have what it takes, I must be perfect to be loved, I must be successful to be happy, and so on.

Let me give you an example from my own life and how I discovered my limiting belief to provide some context. Over the years, I had created a feeling of not being good enough. Everyone does that in some way, by the way. I was in business and doing well, but I always looked up to people who earned more money or had huge sums of money. Looking up to them made me feel that I was not good enough, that they were better than me. I sought the origin of this belief. I did this during my NLP training, where we did a regression back in time. Our consciousness does not remember everything from our lives, especially not things from early childhood. However, the body and your subconscious remember everything. By entering an alpha brainwave state, a state of hypnosis, we can access the memories of the body and subconscious. And so, in this regression, I walked backward over an imaginary timeline with my eyes closed and suddenly stopped. I was encouraged to describe the situation I saw in my mind. And there was my father, sitting at our dining table. I was about 6 years old, and my father was talking to me with a wise life lesson. My father had emigrated twice in his life, once from Bulgaria to Prague just after World War II, and the second time from Prague to the Netherlands after the Russians invaded Czechoslovakia. He came from a poor farming family and had no money to support him after school. He came to Prague with nothing and knew no one, and he had to work hard to survive, but he managed to complete medical school and become a doctor. Later, he fled to the Netherlands, leaving everything behind and again with practically nothing. He had to work very hard again, and this time he became an anesthesiologist. He felt that, being an immigrant, having little money and no connections, he had to be better than the rest to make it. And he might have been right! To rise from poverty and ensure he would make it, and if that meant being better than the rest, then so be it. It was his primary drive and his fuel to become who he became, and I have so much respect for him for that.” So, in this regression, I remembered that day when he was sitting at the dining table. And he told me that we are a bit different, we are immigrants, and that I always have to be better than the rest because of that. If I want to be successful in life, I always have to be better than the boys and girls in my class. It was said with the best intentions and out of pure love and protection, but at that very moment, he implanted a very significant belief in me. That I always have to be better than the rest, which I later translated into believing that if I see someone I admire, I am not good enough. Because that person is better than me, and therefore I am not meeting my father’s lesson. This belief also drove me to achieve many things and gave me ambition to grow businesses and earn a lot of money. But every time I reached a milestone I had set for myself, I was not really happy or fulfilled. I always looked at the next thing to achieve, raising the bar for myself each time, and never really feeling truly happy about it. Of course, I celebrated, but the happy feeling was always very short-lived. Until the moment I went through this regression, I suddenly understood the imprint of my father’s belief on my subconscious. I realized that it was his belief, something he had experienced and what happened in his life. But it was not mine. And I also realized that I had adapted this belief. I had added my own piece to it, that I can only be happy if I am truly successful. And my definition of success at that time was making a lot of money. But it was never enough; every time I wanted more and told myself that I could only be happy if I reached the next goal. But every time I did that, I also shifted my permission to be happy. I suddenly saw that I was trapped in a belief loop and that I would never allow myself to be happy in this way. I was always moving my happiness to a future event that continuously shifted with each step I took. But we live in the present moment; the future does not exist. This was a real breakthrough for me. My drive was based on my limiting belief. I realized that with me, and many like me, success is sometimes based on limiting beliefs or our trauma. Because it is based on trauma, success often does not feel truly fulfilling. The primary drive is to move away from the pain by being successful, which counteracts the pain. But it is not purposeful; if it is, you are much more likely to enjoy the successes. Identifying and reprogramming your limiting beliefs is a crucial part of emotional mastery because they keep us at lower vibrational levels, such as shame, guilt, or feeling inadequate. What we experience in our early childhood has a significant impact on our lives, on the formation of beliefs, and on our personality.